I know there are times you feel overwhelmed by everything and you snap. In your head, you know you are about to snap. You don’t want to snap, but you do.
There are three kinds of meltdowns: anger, panic, and depression. Some of us have a go-to; others dabble in all three.
I fixed a bunch of things in my thinking and in my life that were leading to meltdowns. You can fix them too. This book will show you how.
Do I always stay calm? Nope. But I have better control over my emotions now. Life doesn’t jerk my chain, and my feelings no longer run me off a cliff. I can handle things with grace.
People don’t walk away from me as often. People take me seriously when I want to be taken seriously. I stand up for myself without putting down others. I accept what I can’t change, and I find the solutions to every problem that pops up. I can handle every storm.
Calming down didn’t come easy for me. At the same time, I know it was something I had to do. I had to calm down if I wanted a better life. If I wanted to sleep at night. If I wanted to keep my friends. If it wanted to relax and enjoy myself. If I wanted to feel safe.
You want those things too. Right?
You heard that comment. You know you heard it. It felt like a jab, a crack, a shot, but you can’t put your finger on it.
When he talks to you, you feel attacked, shamed, uncomfortable, or just a little bit smaller.
This book will help you spot the trash talk, and, even better, this book will help you understand the trash talker.
Do you know why those are good things to know?
The trash talker might be you.
Praise for Trash Talk
We have all forgotten how to talk to one another. Trash Talk: Words Matter is needed now more than ever. As a school district administrator, I see time and again conflicts arising because kids (and adults) aren’t mindful of what they say. We all forget that words can either build people up or tear people down. With this book, kids will learn not only to understand others but themselves through their speech. This book is empowering and powerful. It’s also fun to read!
Straight-talking Nancy Next’s no-nonsense approach to writing makes her an anti-hero of self-help books. She doesn’t promise gimmicks to make your life great or bombard you with sneaky Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques guaranteed to make you purchase a great follow-up coaching plan. Instead, she offers clear and direct wisdom about being a healthy human being who can have deep, fulfilling relationships.
Nancy also does a great job of showing us all that there are times when we are “trash talkers.” Trash Talk: Words Matter is a guide to accepting human flaws, our own and those of others, while also holding ourselves accountable to healthy relationships. In this book, redemption is possible. The loving nature of humans seems to be almost a Universalist theological underpinning that flows through the frank conversational prose without being preachy.
I highly recommend this book for anyone looking to laugh a little and learn a lot. It is a fast read and something you can come back to over and over for deeper learning.
I recommend Trash Talk: Words Matter so kids can build respectful and happy relationships. I also think this book is perfect for the language arts classroom. The text IS the students’ speech, and this book coaches all learners in purpose, audience, tone, and interpretation. What better text is there than how kids speak every day?
HELP! My Blunders Are Trying to Kill Me
Ghosts are real.
They visit you when you are trying to sleep, when you are quiet, and when you are trying to focus on your now. They love to remind you of every mistake, every misdeed, and every regret.
No one is perfect, and everyone has a past. Everyone has dirt. Everyone remembers when they didn’t exactly behave according to their highest selves.
And sometimes, or frequently, those phantoms are poised for attack. When they do, you may feel chained to the dungeon wall while spotlight shines in your eyes, and a menacing voice bellows from the darkness, “Explain yourself!”
You aren’t alone. If your past is stalking you, I can help.